Alive, but invisible (halle) wrote in fs_parenting,
Alive, but invisible


Alright, so. Jesse and I have a bit of a problem with his father and stepmother. They are evangelical-style Christians, and although they are aware of our beliefs (Jesse is a raging atheist, philosophically Buddhist type--would you agree with this description, Jesse?--while I am more of an I-don't-know, trying to be open-minded agnostic) they persist in sending stuff of a religious nature to the girls. For Christmas it was a Veggie Tales DVD, featuring a Bible story performed by animated vegetables with a message about Jesus at the end, and just yesterday it was Easter cards, reading "Easter is a time for celebrating Jesus, but also for celebrating our wonderful granddaughter!" and, my favorite, "We love you a whole lot, but Jesus loves you more!".

Now, here's the thing: I have no issues with Jesus, nor Christianity in general. What I can't stand is the particular brand of evangelical Christianity that dictates that everyone who does not believe as they do goes to hell, and focuses on evangelizing over any actual good works. (Jesse is of the opinion that all Christians think everyone else is going to hell, but in my limited experience going to a Methodist church as a child, I never once recall hearing about anyone going to hell.) I don't want my girls exposed to this sort of thinking, especially at such a young age. At some point, I wouldn't mind if Jesse's dad wanted to respectfully discuss what they believe and why. I think what really bothers me is, in quick little points for brevity:

A) feeling like they are trying to sneak their views in with cards sporting Bible verses and DVDs, even thought they know better. Trying to go over our heads is not cool.

B) They would have had a *fit* if, when their kids were little, someone had sent them a "Remember that Allah loves you, and you will have 72 virgins in Heaven!" card, or a "Happy Solstice, praise be to the earth-mother-tree spirit" card, and so on. Basically it's a case of what George Carlin calls "My shit is stuff, and your stuff is shit".

C) They seem to be incapable of having the most basic of human interaction without bringing their faith into it somehow. Even e-mails have to be signed with "In His Love".

Basically what I think I'm asking is: am I making a mountain of a molehill, and is it worthwhile to have a word with them about it before the girls get any older? On the one hand, knowing Jesse's stepmother, asking them to reign it in will ignite World War III, but on the other hand, I'm not going to be bullied, especially where our kids are concerned.
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